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My Dad and Vascular Dementia

The following is a guest blog written by Eric Sondergeld. 

My father is 90 years old and suffers from vascular dementia. I’m no expert on the various types of dementia or even on aging. That said, my understanding is that vascular dementia is the second most common dementia diagnosis in older individuals (Alzheimer’s being the most common) and that it results from a series of often unnoticed mini strokes that damage the brain and affect memory. I’m sure there are as many stories about dementia as there have been people with it. This blog is my side of my father’s dementia story. 

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