Posts by Candice Smith

Transparency

Transparency

By Candice Smith

Overwhelm, lack of control, and an unfamiliarity with the subject matter and “language” of end-of-life care breeds insecurity and mistrust. How can I possibly do what’s right when I don’t have a clue...

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The Care Team

The Care Team

By Candice Smith

In her book Eldercare 101, my friend Mary Jo Saavedra encourages families to create an “Aging Life Care Team”.  This team consists of an assortment of individuals with the skills often called on when...

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Does It Have a Happy Ending?

Does It Have a Happy Ending?

By Candice Smith

People mean well, they really do.  Even thoughtless people and those who can’t relate to your situation.  I’ve only recognized this in hindsight.

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Others Are Going Through This with You

Others Are Going Through This with You

By Candice Smith

So far most of what I’ve written to you about has been focused on the emotional and psychological responses that you may encounter as a family care partner.  Those visceral, internal struggles to be...

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Remain True to Yourself

Remain True to Yourself

By Candice Smith

For a time, a long time, during my Dad’s illness I felt this immense pressure to be his savior. Perhaps I couldn’t save his life, but I could protect him from the “horrible” realities of the...

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Fight or Flight

Fight or Flight

By Candice Smith

“Dad had just shared with us his diagnosis. I clearly remember looking around the kitchen table where we were assembled.  At Mom, my brother, his wife and then my own. If my face was a reflection of...

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