Welcome to my Journey

These are my personal stories, lessons, and learnings that guided me through my father’s end-of-life journey.

Does It Have a Happy Ending?

Does It Have a Happy Ending?

By Candice Smith

People mean well, they really do.  Even thoughtless people and those who can’t relate to your situation.  I’ve only recognized this in hindsight.

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Others Are Going Through This with You

Others Are Going Through This with You

By Candice Smith

So far most of what I’ve written to you about has been focused on the emotional and psychological responses that you may encounter as a family care partner.  Those visceral, internal struggles to be...

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Remain True to Yourself

Remain True to Yourself

By Candice Smith

For a time, a long time, during my Dad’s illness I felt this immense pressure to be his savior. Perhaps I couldn’t save his life, but I could protect him from the “horrible” realities of the...

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Fight or Flight

Fight or Flight

By Candice Smith

“Dad had just shared with us his diagnosis. I clearly remember looking around the kitchen table where we were assembled.  At Mom, my brother, his wife and then my own. If my face was a reflection of...

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You Can't Control What is Happening

You Can't Control What is Happening

By Candice Smith

Until I was faced with the news that my father was dying, I’d not given much thought to the process or how, as a care partner, I could support him. Naively I assumed that since death was as much a...

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If You Care, You Are a Care Partner

If You Care, You Are a Care Partner

By Candice Smith

It wasn’t until I was on the phone with my Dad’s chosen hospice provider that I realized that I was a “care partner”.  Fifteen months after diagnosis and it never occurred to me that this was my...

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